FEELING vs HEALING

I met a new friend a few weeks ago and in our first intimate conversation, he confided that he was in a very dark place. He was unable to create joy in his life. He said that his faith in God was "broken" and so was how he viewed the world.

As he opened up further, he expressed the reason for his depressed state of being. He shared that the woman he loved had aborted their baby a few months ago.

He said that ever since that happened, things had been like a roller coaster and his relationship with his girl friend was on the rocks.

He had seen the child as a gift from God as he very much wanted to be a father and really loved the woman.

As he communicated further, he apologized for his demeanor and asked that I give him time to come back to the present. He said that he was trying to "heal" this and asked if I had any suggestions that might help. He said that he was feeling very "stuck."

I gave him the following advice;

There never was, is or will be anything to heal.

You cannot heal your life or any part of it.

Your life cannot be fixed because it is not broken.

You cannot be fixed because you are not broken.

Life is.

We are experiencers of life.

We create what we choose to experience.

There are no right or wrong or good or bad experiences. There are only experiences.

We create experiences SIMPLY for the experience of experiencing them.

When we refuse to experience something that by our own decision we have created to experience, resistance occurs, feeling is replaced by thinking, pain, suffering and chaos ensues.

We now are experiencing our resistance to our creation not our original creation.

In thinking, we deny that we created the experience in the first place and in that denial, we deny our True Selves/God.

With this denial, we become at effect instead of at cause for our lives. We stop the flow of life. We halt creation. We begin to die.

To start the flow, to live again, we simply need feel what we have been resisting feeling, our own creations, FULLY.

The stuck will become unstuck and our energy will be available to create anew.